fairy-in-a-bottle:

furiousgoldfish:

I’m telling you

to not hit your kids

to not spank or slap or punch or leash them

because it fucking traumatizes them

if you can’t handle irritation

if you can’t handle hyperactivity and loudness and wildness of a new human in development who is figuring out how their body works and what they can do and what they want to do

then what the fuck did you expect a child is

did you have kids with expectations of “oh i’ll have a small human i’ll be able to control completely”

“oh i’ll be able to shape this small creature into whatever I want it to be”

“oh I’ll have someone to support me and to work for me and pay for itself”

“oh I’ll have someone to comfort me and to love me despite my manipulative and cruel nature because they depend on me”

“oh I’ll be able to live the life I couldn’t through this new human that I made for myself who should listen to me always”

then fucking change all of these expectations to “I have chosen to help a new human to grow into whatever they’re supposed to be and I WILL NOT MESS WITH THEIR DEVELOPMENT TO SATISFY MY PERSONAL NEEDS”

If you can’t just fucking cherish that you have someone’s complete trust and affection and that you can watch them grow and figure everything, that you can follow through their phases and support them and be damn proud of them when they become what they want to be

then you’re not a parent material

stop fucking up your kids lives to make yourself feel better

asshole.

I can’t believe its 2016 and we’re still arguing about this. Don’t hit your kids. Don’t.
I don’t care what they did. It doesn’t matter what they did. They’re growing! They’re learning!! Don’t disturb that process by freaking traumatizing them!! I can speak from experience, growing up with your parental figure being your traditional lovely and helpful mom, and then the same figure coming down on you in a scary authority? Do you understand how much a young child is going to be affected by that? You don’t want your kid being scared of you, you don’t want your kid being scared of the house. It’s awful, kinda ruined my life, actually
So yeah
Don’t hit your kids.